The Sissy Slut Appeal of Being Used

There are many reasons for people to want to partake in the sissification kink, but one reason is the idea of being used sexually.

Mistress Mystique Hoops

10/17/20222 min read

Femdom Mistress with purple hair wearing key on necklace and holding pink lace bra
Femdom Mistress with purple hair wearing key on necklace and holding pink lace bra

There are many reasons for people to want to partake in the sissification kink. Toxic masculinity, enjoying femininity, trying to understand our concept of gender…but one reason that we don’t think about enough, that is especially prominent among the “sissy sluts”, is the idea of being used sexually. Men, in the straight cis world, are not normally sexualized in the way that makes them nothing more than an object to be used by others. They are “supposed” to be the one using another. They are “supposed” to be the user and not the used. They are “supposed” to be the fully formed individual who matters, rather than the objectified sex object whose only role is to fulfill the needs of the user.

The idea of being used as a glory hole for whoever wants to use them can be a hot fantasy then. Your needs and wants no longer matter, and you are just an object to be USED. The idea that others would want to use you for your body, can be hot. As a woman I am soooooooooo used to the feeling of people wanting to use me sexually. It’s impossible to avoid as you age from girl to woman (and it starts when you are only a girl). You get used to the idea that others do not believe your needs or wants matter. But you also get used to the knowledge that it would be easy to get a together group of people who want to use you as their sexual plaything. Men, in straight society, don’t really ever experience that, and so it becomes a hot fantasy. And if you are a man who wants to experiment with bisexuality, being used by other men takes away some of the shame from you. You’re just an object. They are the ones using you, so you’re not choosing it.

I love sissy sluts because I have spent a long time being the sexual object in others eyes, and instead I get to turn it on its head and say, “no, you’re the object now, babe.” I get to be the “man” fucking my sissies face as they try to please me while gagging on my strap-on. I get to be the one, “who doesn’t care about what my partner wants, but only thinks of my own wants.” Now in actuality, I will always care about my partner’s wants and enjoyment, but getting to pretend I don’t is fun. Women are raised to care about their partner’s wants and enjoyment first, and so I like getting to play the opposite of that.

So sissy sluts, get to experience being sexually desired as a fuck doll. And women Dommes, like myself, get to feel the power of another person being your sexual object to use. And we associate the idea of the sexual object with femininity. The lingerie, the makeup…it’s a performance, and performances are there for an audience to consume. So by making the sissy perform femininity, it turns them into a performance for consumption. They are now just a thing to be used. They are the object. And while it’s fun to play an object, having a better understanding of objectification can help you from objectifying others in your real life.